Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Aug 30

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

We all do it. We see people around us and on Facebook and Instagram and we wish we were like them. We wish we had their looks, their money, their jobs, their lifestyle. I tend to look at people’s legs. It’s because of my lipedema, and I consistently wish I had someone else’s legs. While I’m thinking wanting their legs, they may wish they had different ears or hair, or maybe that they were taller or shorter. Everyone has something they don’t like about themselves, but we can’t seem to stop comparing.

But comparison doesn’t make us happy. Instead, it causes us to look at what we don’t have instead of what’s right in front of us. Maybe my legs don’t look like or work as well as someone else’s, but I’m happy to have my mobility right now. I’m happy to be building my freedom lifestyle. I’m happy to live in such a beautiful area of Texas. I’m also learning to love myself more and give myself more self-care. You can read along with those posts in my articles about the book The Art of Extreme Self Care (Overview – Chapter 1 – Deprivation)

Two Steps to End Compison

This is one of the first steps in stopping the comparison game – appreciation. When you appreciate where you are and what you have, then it’s easier to enjoy your life instead of wishing it was something else. This doesn’t mean not to aspire to something more. Everyone should continue to aspire to something greater. But it’s not a race or competition with someone else. The only person you should be competing with is yourself. How are you improving from month to month or year to year? When you water your own grass, you stop thinking about the green grass on the other side of the fence.

The second way to stop comparison is to try to understand someone instead of judging them. When you see someone different than you are or someone who is trying to kick a habit, do you think to yourself, “At least I don’t do that,” or “I’m glad I overcame that.” Instead of judgement, try to think about what that person may be going through. Were they rude because they had a bad day? Are they overweight because they have a medical issue or medication issue? Are they angry because you’re the eighth person they’ve been transferred to when trying to get a question answered? When you at least try to understand, you can let go of judgement.

Is it difficult for you to stop comparing yourself to others? Let me know in the comments or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.



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