It’s My Birthday! What’s Great About my 40s

Jul 16

It’s My Birthday! What’s Great About my 40s

It’s my birthday! Yay!

I love my birthday. I’ve had birthdays with a surprise party thrown by my boss one summer and I’ve had some when my gift was handed to me in the bag from the store. I didn’t matter, because it was my birthday. And I don’t care if anyone knows how old I am either (I’m 44 today!) because the alternative is … not getting any older.

I may be at the age where I had to use a calculator to figure out how old I am, but I’m also at the age where I just don’t care (much) about what people think anymore. I feel like I spent most of my life – childhood, teen years, early adulthood – trying to please everyone else, putting all I wanted to do and felt inspired to do on hold because someone else thought it was silly or too weird or too much of a risk. But now, I don’t care. So here is a short list about what’s great about being in my 40s.

1. I am less self-conscious about my looks. This is me. Part of this freedom is finding out I have a disorder called lipedema, but another part of it is just wanting to be more comfortable and being myself. If it’s hot and I want to go swimming, I’ll go swimming, thank you very much. I won’t wear makeup because I’ll just sweat it off anyway. My goal now is comfort.

2. I value experiences more than things. We started downsizing several years ago, and while we still have a lot of stuff we’ve really let a lot of things go. I would rather spend money on a trip (skip the T shirt or the coffee mug souvenir) or a nice dinner out and just enjoy the experience.

3. I’ve found my voice. I used to be too scared and shy to speak up, to ask a question or to say what I felt. I was brought up to believe I didn’t have a voice, I didn’t have a say in anything. So when I became an adult it was still hard to let go of those childhood feelings and finally express myself as a person with my own opinions. This gets easier every day.

4. I am more accepting of my weaknesses. I can’t be great at everything, and I have been able to better see and understand my weaknesses and work with them instead of against them – and I love that about me!

5. I embrace learning new things. I was a good, average student in high school and college, but now that I have choices over what I learn and how I learn them – You Tube videos are my new go-to right now – I have embraced technology and learned so much over the last few years. I never want to stop reading, learning and experiencing new things.

Honestly, every age has been wonderful and has been a learning experience. I have no desire to wish myself back to high school (never again!) or even my 20s or 30s. I love where I am right now.

What are your favorite things about your age right now? Let me know in the comments or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.




  1. I totally agree with finding your voice and enjoying experiences! The older I get the more I realize how important it is to just be myself. I use to love shopping now I really kind of dread it like you Id rather spend money on doing something fun or yummy food!

  2. Great list. I’m getting closer to most of those as well. Seeing the interns at work worry and fret over all the things I used to really makes me glad that I’ve moved past that stage. Living for acceptance is not living at all.

  3. Great post! Happy birthday!!! 🙂

  4. Happy Birthday! Enjoyed the post!

  5. Penny Sheppard /

    Happy Birthday! Just wait until your 50’s…. life is still wonderful and new.

  6. happy birthday- sounds like I could learn a lot from you 😉
    Southern Elle Style

  7. Glad you had a happy birthday! Love your perspective; sounds like our childhoods have a lot in common.

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