Creative Life Book Club – The Art of Extreme Self Care

Jul 12

Creative Life Book Club – The Art of Extreme Self Care

I picked up The Art of Extreme Self Care (affiliate link) at a library book sale a few months ago and started working my way through it. I didn’t get through the first month, though. That’s when I thought I’d turn it into a project for the blog. This way I can share the book with all of you and you can buy a copy on Amazon or find one at your local library.

The book is all about the rewards of self care. How often do we, especially women and mothers, put everyone else first while we always come last? This way of caring for ourselves may seem selfish, but truthfully we need to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of the other people in our lives.

The book is broken into 12 chapters, one for each month. I’ll write on it every two weeks – once at the beginning of the month and again in the middle just to see how we’re doing. I’ll be starting this book on July 1 and will share an update at the end of the month.

The first chapter is End the Legacy of Deprivation. Cheryl Richardson, the author, gives examples of when she was writing this book her husband became sick. On top of his illness, they had businesses to run and they were in the process of building a home. She did what she thought she needed to do and hunkered down to Git ‘R Done. She focused on others’ needs and kept pushing her own back. It wasn’t until she spoke to a counselor that she realized exactly what she was feeling – deprived. She went home that day and wrote out a list of what she felt deprived of.

Awareness is a powerful catalyst for positive change (p 4) and once she was aware of what she was doing, she made changes in her daily routine. It’s up to each of us to make those choices in our day-to-day life and to honor our self-care.

Discover where you feel deprived

Start with a list. She recommends carrying a notebook but you do that or just save a note in your phone or organizer. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, burdened or resentful, as yourself

Where do I feel deprived?

What do I need more of right now?

What do I need less of?

What do I want right now?

Be specific. Don’t just say, “I feel deprived of time to myself”. Be specific about what you want to do with that time, such as, “I feel deprived of the time to just take a long, uninterrupted bath”.

I know the first thing on my list. I feel deprived of a good, restful night’s sleep. I’ll be keeping up with my list how I’m working with it, what I’m doing, and I’ll write again in two weeks. Feel free to grab a copy of the book and join me.

What do you feel deprived of? How can you change it and take better care of yourself? Let me know in the comments or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.


  1. Self-care is a concept that is coming up a lot in social media right now. I just started reading Fringe Hours, so I think this will tie in nicely. I’ve started a note in Evernote to keep up with thoughts–looking forward to the next post in this series!

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