When Other People Don’t “Get” Your Dreams

Apr 09

When Other People Don’t “Get” Your Dreams

We started this blog to share our dream of building our freedom businesses and eventually living a full time life of traveling in an RV. For the most part everyone has been very supportive. We have a lot of comments like, “I’d love to do that,” and “I’m doing it as soon as the kids are in college.” But every now and again we’ll get comments like “But why not stay in your secure job? You may not be able to get another one,” or “It’s going to be expensive to travel in an RV. The gas alone will be really high.”

I did get frustrated at several of these comments and sometimes I would try to explain why I wanted this dream. I eventually gave up trying to convince people and realized that any mean comments were more about them than me or they were trying to express concern and care for me.

When I started looking at it all this way, the comments didn’t sound so snarky anymore. Here are a few tips to remember when someone just doesn’t understand.

1. They wouldn’t take the risk. This, again, is about them, not you. If you mention wanting to sail around the world in a boat and they’re afraid of boats, the water or the things that live in the water they’re not going to understand your love for the ocean and sailing. Maybe they have a hobby, like skydiving or being a rodeo cowboy, that you feel would be pretty risky and this will help you see their side.

2. They’re comfortable in their routine – and there’s nothing wrong with that. If someone is comfortable, if they have a good job and they love their home and family, then allow them that comfort. You don’t like them judging your restlessness, right? It works both ways.

3. They love you and want the best for you. They may be sad that you want to leave to study penguins or surf every beach in Australia and that’s why they make some of the comments they do. Just remember they love you and want you to be safe.

Keep these three things in mind and remember to stay judgement free. You may find yourself making the same comments when a friend or family members shares their dream. Even if it’s not for you, think before you speak and offer encouragement and support. Treat them as you want to be treated.

Has anyone ever offered a mean or sarcastic comment when you’ve shared a goal or dream? Did you say anything in return? Let me know in the comments or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.

 

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