Prosperity Consciousness vs Scarcity Consciousness

Jun 29

Prosperity Consciousness vs Scarcity Consciousness

Through June and July join me for Creative Life Book Club. I’ll discuss a nugget of truth from a current book I’m reading. The current book is Real Magic by Wayne Dyer.


 

Again, Chapter 5 was so full of information I took at least 6 pages of notes. It led me to new ideas as well as confirmed so much I’ve already been doing in my life to date. Changing from a scarcity mindset to a prosperity mindset has been an ongoing process for me and Scott for at least three years.

There was one instance when we were having lunch at a friend’s home along with some of their other guests. Somehow the topic turned to the economy. These guests had retail jobs which mostly meant low pay and long hours. They complained that it was impossible to ever move ahead and that “they” (usually meaning the government, big business or some other, large, invisible entity) wanted to keep people in low paying jobs to keep them dependent and docile.

I choose to believe otherwise. Scott and I talked about this conversation after we left and we both agreed that as long as they thought that way – that they would always and forever be in a minimum wage retail job – then it would never change. We had big dreams, even then, and even though our divorce the following year would derail some of that temporarily, when we reconciled it seemed that our dreams became even more possible. After all, the Bible does say that ALL things are possible for those who love God. Not some things, not a few things, but ALL things.

Shifting from a scarcity mindset to a prosperity mindset is a shift in your belief and your attitude. One quote shared was that being broke is a temporary state of affairs but being poor – that as a mindset of reinforced beliefs.

But prosperity isn’t all about money, although that’s where our mind usually goes. What really, really resonated with me thought was point two – I can’t create prosperity if I believe in lack. Dr. Dyer discusses our deficiency motivation. We feel deficient and so we try to “fix” things. We think if we get x, y, and z we’ll be happy. We’ll be prosperous. But we’ll always be striving for more. There will never be enough.

It made me think about how many times I’d set new years resolutions because I felt I was deficient in some way. I needed to lose weight. I needed to get more organized. I needed to clean my house on a regular schedule. I should be doing this or that or the other thing. I had too many “shoulds” in my life. It was at this point that I knew, right then, I would be letting go of all my organization and housekeeping books.

Why organization and housekeeping? Because this is just one area I can say I’ve struggled with for most of my life. I’m good at coping and adjusting, but I tend to live with paper piles and laundry mountains. I cannot stand Flylady’s drill sergeant commands and attitudes although I’ve tried making a control journal and following her baby steps more times than I can count. My new year’s resolutions have usually included at least one line of “get organized” and “clean house.” I’ve always felt there was something wrong with me, something lacking in this area. I “should” be able to do these things. I “should” do them because that’s what being a good wife and mother means. I had all these reinforced beliefs because of what my mother and my grandmother had been. But organization and housekeeping has never come easily to me.

I’ve had several of these books for years. I’ve been on email lists for support. I’ve looked up websites that reminded me to do a “task for the day.”  But I never stick with the books or the plans. I make a plan and tend to react to things that come up during the day. I am a list maker and schedule maker who doesn’t always follow the lists or the schedule. I love empty calendars and day planners because they seem so full of potential,  but never use them consistently. In the digital age I’ve used various programs and apps and always seem to come back to the trusty Google calendar and now I use Google Now. I love the fact that I can set up these programs and they pretty much work independently of me now.

Reading this part of chapter five has shifted those beliefs for me. I realize now that there is nothing wrong with me. I’m not deficient in some way because and there are dishes in the sink and laundry in the dryer. I don’t need a spotless house to be happy. I am happy right now! I’m happy with writing this blog and working on eBay and Amazon and writing books. I can keep schedules for these things because they are important to me. Washing the dishes? Cleaning the bathroom? Not so much. These things are important, but my work, what brings me joy, is MORE important to me.

So I do my work first. I write, I read, I take photos for eBay, I play with graphics software. It doesn’t even seem like I’m working. Then, when my brain is ready to do something different, I’ll do laundry and listen to a podcast or wash dishes while watching a video. When I’m on a clean the bathroom / change the sheets / vacuum the floor marathon I’ll play some music from my Grooveshark playlist. And it’s all okay.

I don’t say this to mean that I don’t want to continue to grow. I do. Growth is why I  read books like Real Magic. But the desire for growth needs to come from a growth mindset, a growth motivation, not a deficiency motivation. It can’t come from a place of “There’s something wrong with me.” It needs to come from a place of “I want to grow, I want to change.” But sometimes there’s just a peace in knowing that there is nothing lacking, there is nothing wrong with you for not having a certain skill.

Is there an aspect of your life where you’ve often felt lacking or deficient? How will you shift your thinking after reading this? Let me know in the comments or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.

 

 

 

One comment

  1. Love the switch from scarcity to prosperity!!

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